Those who know me well may have heard me talk about my “Perfect Moments” with a smile and deep longing to find more of them. You know those moments where it seems everything is in place as it should be, the stars are in alignment, you are completely at peace and content to just be in that moment. The feeling you are right where you are supposed to be in a “perfect” circumstance and you become aware of how special it is and very grateful to be in it. This is how a “Perfect Moment” is created…or so I thought.
My friends, I had it all wrong. It turns out those moments that I was deeming “perfect” actually had nothing to do with my external circumstance, nor did I stumble upon it and find it. What I was experiencing came from within me and it is there all the time! We all have it. Yes! It’s there for us ALL THE TIME! Let that soak in a minute, if that’s as big a paradigm shift for you as it was for me.
While some of my “Perfect Moments” happened in exotic places, surrounded by extraordinary beauty and the power of nature, it occurred to me that many of my “Perfect Moments” occurred in ordinary circumstances during every day activities. If I close my eyes, I can still feel the warmth of my babies cradled in my arms as I fed them. So vivid is their sweet smell and the vibrations of my heart and theirs beating so close together. My boys are in their twenties now but it’s so vivid. What are some of your vivid moments?
Was feeding time always this wonderful and “perfect”? No, of course it wasn’t. There were stressful times as I was driven by my list of things to get done. My mind would race about getting dinner finished or I would try to multi-task while feeding the babes so I felt productive. Yes, I now see how silly that sounds. What could be more productive and worthwhile than nourishing your children so they thrive? What can I say? It was my mindset at that time. I’m suspecting you can relate. So the circumstances were the same but my experiences were entirely different. I had just as many chores to do during my “Perfect Moments” feeding the babes as the times that seemed stressful and strained. So why were my experiences so different?
The difference was not the circumstance but my own perception, awareness, presence, openness, witnessing without judgment, experiencing without expectation and feeling gratitude. So the pieces of the puzzle are coming together and I am realizing that (at least for me) the ability to access this extraordinary gift is directly related to my self-care. The times I more readily access this gift and experience complete contentment or a “Perfect Moment”, happens when I am well rested, nourished (physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually) and put myself at the top of my list of things to do for the day. My yoga teacher has described to me her inner dialog when she decides she’s not going to do anything for a while, rest and just be. I’ve also heard her say numerous times during relaxation at the end of our yoga sessions: “There’s no place you have to be. There’s nothing you have to do.” In retrospect, I believe those conversations, sharing her personal experiences and meditations over time have caused a positive ripple effect; allowing me to further my understanding of self-care and its importance to the quality of my life.
I’m grateful that you are reading and following. I’ll be writing a lot about self-care this year to share my experiences as I continue to learn and explore. My hope is that something within my words resonates with you and it continues a positive ripple effect in the world. Please post your thoughts. I’d love to hear from you, wherever you are on your journey.
May we all experience more “Perfect Moments” in our daily life!